Guy unsure dating me

28-Oct-2015 09:28

When a guy is serious about a woman, he shares himself with her.He lets her into his world and shows some level of vulnerability. Men aren’t used to opening up and showing their emotions and they are much more selective when it comes to letting people in.

We had a talk and he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship yet. I saw him about a month after the conversation, and he mentioned that we should see each other more, at least once a week. I know the way I did it wasn’t ideal—via text—but we mainly text anyway. I get it, you like the guy and want things to work, but he’s done very little to show that he likes you, too. He’s already told you plainly, and after an ample amount of time getting to know you, that he’s not looking for a relationship. I felt like I was falling for him, and clearly he’s unavailable.(I know, I know, interested men call.) But he didn’t put up much of a fight or stop me from ending things. I’m unsure why you expected him to be interested in one when your relationship was built on texting.I’m not surprised that he didn’t put up a fight to keep you from leaving. Maybe you chose to overlook that because you’re lonely, and after failed situations in the past, you just wanted someone around, so you settled.Women of all ages and across all cultures are united in their quest to determine the following: Does he like me? So what can we do to spare ourselves the time, energy, and heartbreak that goes into determining how a man feels? I’ve experienced those gut-twisting feelings, the ones the leave you with a constant sense of impending doom in the pit of your stomach causing you to question everything, including yourself. I mean, there is a lot at stake when you put your heart on the line and you can end up wasting months, or years, of your life on a man who never intended to keep you around for the long haul.

After giving this topic a lot of thought and consulting with several guys, I’ve uncovered five tell-tale signs that he isn’t going to commit to you now or ever. You don’t know anything real about him You can talk to someone for hours and hours every day and not know anything real about them.

You might know details about their life, but you don’t know who they are, their real and true self that exists beneath all the superficial fluff.

But deep down you know this, because you’ve said that interested men call. If so, I get the reasoning, but settling isn’t the way to get what you want. Another woman chimed in and provided a link to a well-written (in jaded frustration) article about a woman lamenting, more or less, how dating sucks and men are crap and no one does what they used to do.

Last week on Twitter, a woman asked me if a woman was wasting her pretty by dating a guy for an extended length of time who wouldn’t commit. The woman thought I was unrealistic about dating, specifically the part where I tell women not to accept men who text instead of call, who offer couch dates instead of actual dates or who won’t commit after dating for a significant amount of time. He’s not all that interested in you, and you’re being used as a convenient placeholder until he finds the woman he really wants.

You are wasting your energy and time—i.e., your pretty.

The one question you will never hear a guy ask when he starts dating a girl is: “Will she commit to me? Questions and uncertainties regarding commitment seem to be reserved for the ladies. And the aftermath of these situations is never pretty.